Say the important things before the nikah.
Mithaq walks a Muslim couple through the conversations marriages are built on — faith, money, family, children, the everyday — so you can answer honestly, compare gently, and begin with clarity instead of assumptions.
Two people. One covenant.
The name
A solemn covenant deserves an honest beginning.
The Qur’an calls marriage a mīthāqan ghalīẓā — a firm and weighty covenant.
Too often the weightiest questions go unasked until after the wedding: who manages the money, how close the families will be, what faith looks like on an ordinary Tuesday. Mithaq gives those questions a gentle, structured place.
وَأَخَذْنَ مِنكُم مِّيثَاقًا غَلِيظًا
“…and they have taken from you a firm covenant.”
Sūrat an-Nisāʾ, 4:21
How it works
Four quiet steps, at your own pace.
No matchmaking, no score, no one looking over your shoulder. Just the two of you, the questions, and time.
- 1
Answer on your own
Each of you answers privately, as you are today — not as you think you should sound.
- 2
See where you meet
Answers are compared side by side once you’re both ready. Some topics only show “same”, “partly” or “different”.
- 3
Talk it through
Differences are sorted into what to resolve before marriage and what you can grow into together.
- 4
Carry it to the nikah
Sign each charter together and keep a summary of what you’ve agreed, to revisit as life changes.
Financial Charter
If money gets tight one month, what would you want us to do first?
Hidden until you’re both ready.
A taste
Not a test. A conversation starter.
Mithaq doesn’t tell you whether you’re compatible. It shows you where you already agree, and where a good conversation is waiting.
- Every question has an “I’m still working through this” answer — uncertainty is honest, not a failure.
- Add a short note to any answer to say how it feels for you.
- Questions ask about feelings and real life, not promises that could be used as leverage later.
Paced for real courtship
The right questions at the right time.
You wouldn’t ask about burial wishes on a first meeting. Charters open as your relationship deepens, so nothing is rushed and nothing important is skipped.
Getting to know
Who you are, what you hope for, and why marriage, why now.
Serious
The shape of a shared life: money, family, work and children.
Engaged
The tender and practical matters that belong closest to the nikah.
What you’ll talk about
Every corner of a marriage, including the unspoken ones.
Each charter is a short set of questions written carefully — reviewed for kindness, honesty and sitr — so the hard topics feel approachable.
- Marriage readinessPriorities, hopes, worries, why now
- Faith journeyYour relationship with Islam, as it is today
- Nikah & relationshipIntention, mahr, feeling cared for, making up
- FinancialAccounts, budgets, zakat, helping family
- Money valuesWhat money means to each of you
- Cultural identityHeritage, languages, where home will be
- In-lawsCloseness, boundaries, what stays between you
- Career & ambitionWork, time, and what feels fair
- ParentingChildren, values, schooling, discipline
- Mental healthHard seasons and how to support each other
- Unspoken realitiesChores, rhythms, affection, digital trust
- Conflict historyHow you handle disagreement and repair
- Joy, play & humorWeekends, laughter, unwinding
- Aging & end of lifeCaring for parents, janazah, legacy
- Your story & growthWhere you come from, where you’re growing
Built on amanah — what you share is a trust.Mithaq is designed so honesty feels safe. The most personal answers are never laid bare; they’re protected by design.
Private by default
The most sensitive questions are compared privately: your partner only sees whether you’re the same, partly the same, or different.
Sitr is respected
Intimacy questions are about communication and expectations — never history. Some topics are simply flagged as “let’s talk in person”.
No compatibility score
There’s no number to win or lose. Two people aren’t a percentage.
You choose what family sees
Families and walis can be given a view you decide on, and it never includes private answers.
You can step away
If it isn’t meant to be, you can end gracefully and keep your own answers.
Now in pilot
Begin your marriage already understood.
Mithaq is being tested with a small group of couples and community advisors. Open the app, invite your future spouse, and take the first charter together.